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July 7, 2010

Life Lessons

In the hot sultry air, the blue roan impatiently swished his tail and stomped his foot – kicking at pesky deer flies nibbling at his legs. The other herd members were standing in the dark barn where flies were less active in their pursuit of a warm feast. Bottom of the pecking order, Harley seemed destined to stand and suffer in the heat but this intelligent gelding knew that time was on his side.

Soon lulled into a stupor by the droning of the barn fan and relief from insects, his herd mates fell asleep and Harley moved into action. Pausing slightly with each step, ear cocked and listening just in case his mates awoke, the blue roan backed silently step by step into the dark recesses of relief. Patience rewarded Harley with relief from the biting flies and hot sun and he too, rested in the shadowy recesses of the barn.

Did I teach him how to worm his way into the barn? No – this is something he learned by the school of hard knocks. After repeatedly being chased out of the barn by the older horses, Harley learned that rather than trying to force his presence upon the bullies, he could gain access by biding his time and yes, being a little sneaky.

Life lessons such as being bit on the butt by a dominate horse tend to be retained easier than being “schooled”. Perhaps like a child, a scraped knee or pinched finger leaves a more lasting impression upon the young and willful rather than telling him a certain action could get him hurt. Once on a trail ride, I was repeatedly alerting a young colt to holes in the trail. The colt was more interested in looking at all of the other horses walking about and gawking at the scenery than where his feet were being placed. Finally tiring of watching out for the young and stupid, I let the colt step into a shallow crevice. Stumbling for just as moment, the young and stupid turned into the smartest kid on the block and instantly started paying attention to where his feet were placed. The school of hard knocks once again won.

My first trail ride on Harley was also a learning experience. With the steady influence of his pasture mates along on the ride, Harley set off down the trail eagerly – happy to be out “working” with the big boys. When unsure, he would hesitate and wait for the others reassurance and then set off once again. His muscles felt hard beneath my seat – tense with excitement and seemingly ready to blow at a moment’s notice. The young colt’s hindquarters felt uncoordinated as he learned to carry my weight downhill and back up again. We traveled along a hilly prairie road and after pausing slightly, crossed a wooden bridge with ease.

Soon, my tense colt relaxed and softened his muscles beneath me and I too, relaxed as we traversed another hill. Now confidence and remarkable agility and balance were felt as we traversed up and down the hills. Many miles will be spent under saddle before Harley is finished but as we travel, the life lessons we both learn along the trail will be priceless – even if it takes a little stumble or bite on the butt to make us wake up!

June 3, 2010

Silence Speaking Loudly

The cheerful chatter of birds riding in on the fresh air through my open window woke me, the sun still hiding behind the horizon of the eastern sky. Fresh steaming cup of coffee in hand, its aroma mingling nicely with the scent of pine and spring air, I settled onto the swing on my deck and watched the sun rise. The horses, snorting in contentment, grazed upon the green pasture, tails swishing gently in the calm air. Harley’s raised head and perked ears alerted me to a deer walking along the river bottom – its tawny hide flashing gold in the morning sun.

Horses, when you listen, can tell you so many things by their body language – a shift of the hip, softening of the eye, swish of the tail. They tell you if they are happy, sad, confused or mad. Always on the alert for danger, their early warning system can tell you if there is a bear or an evil green ogre on the trail ahead. Looking through their eyes, you will find a fawn bedded in tall grass or a majestic elk topping the bluff on a far hillside.

Eddie’s body language is one of relaxation and love. Each time after being tacked up, Eddie turns and buries his large head into my stomach and requests his pre-ride hug. I wrap my arms around him and lay my cheek upon his forehead and breathe softly into his nostrils. Eddie sighs in contentment as if to say, “Thank you for taking the time for a ride with me today” and then waits for me to mount. I now use Eddie to give rides to children – Grace is his favorite little girl and tries his hardest to understand her requests. One day, Grace’s grandma came to pick her up after her lesson, bringing her brother and cousins along. The small boys were excited and eager to pet the large horse that stood quietly and lowered his head to their short stature. I showed the boys how Eddie loves his head hugs and they each took their turn – wrapping tiny arms around his massive head, Eddie sighing in contentment. The smallest boy however, was afraid and even in his grandmother’s arms, did not want to touch the large animal. Eddie seemed to understand as he quietly moved closer on his own accord and rested his nose upon Grandma Jen’s arm and quietly encouraged Ian to overcome his fear. The horse, ever patient but unrelenting finally coaxed the boy with his silent body language to pat his massive head. Eddie, once again content, sighed and moved back to the other children for more love.

Harley is the king of body language. Every emotion this spunky little guy feels is loudly proclaimed upon every square inch of his body. One day while lunging him in preparation for another training session, Harley was clearly not a happy camper. Stiff posture, a head toss and a mini buck or two told me something was up. Not one to get ruffled over temper tantrums, I continued to work Harley calmly through his spell. Suddenly Harley stopped, stretched out to pee and proceeded to empty an extremely full bladder. He peed…and peed….and peed! The relief on his face was hilarious as he finished his job and walked off into a whole new world. His body language now was relaxed, happy and alert and eager to do as I beckoned. He did give me a disgusted look as I laughed at my silly boy until tears flowed from my eyes! We proceeded to have the best ride ever – the relaxed young horse beneath me responding to my body language as we learned to read each other’s cues.

We can learn so much by watching our horses as they graze in the pasture, interact with their buddies and nature, and how they respond when you are working with them. By taking the time to listen to what your horse is trying to tell you in his not always so silent body language, your partnership with these intuitive animals will grow. Remembering that horses also read your body language and adjusting your mode of silent communication with your equine will take your partnership to a new level. Horses speak if we listen with our eyes as well as our ears.

January 5, 2010

Enjoying the Storm

I pulled on my heavy wool socks then my insulated boots, insulated bib coveralls and brown duck jacket, a wool hat and heavy gloves. Feeling like that proverbial sausage stuffed into its casing, I clomped my way out the door to do chores. It was one of those record setting cold mornings where the temperature finally bottomed out at -34.

I had tucked the horses into the barn the night before when the temperatures started plummeting – even the house protested the rapid drop with its timbers making loud cracking noises as it adjusted to the temperature. The snow crunched loudly underfoot as I made my way to the barn. Lessons learned in past winters ensured that I inhaled slowly so my nostrils would not freeze shut and also send me into a coughing fit when the blast of cold air hit my lungs. My eyelashes quickly began to frost up giving me perfect white mascara. After scooping some oats into a bucket, I opened the barn door and was met with a gentle nicker from the geldings – always anxious for his morning feed. Their body heat had warmed the barn to a balmy zero degrees during the night and the boys were mellow and sleepy-eyed with pleasure.

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Air is sparse and feels much like the high mountain zone when you’re pitching hay into the feeder rescued from the previous week’s blizzard which piled the snow five feet deep into the corral. Soon, despite the frigid air, I was sweating underneath my layers. Steam rose from the heated water tank creating perfect frosty strings around its edges, goldfish slowly swimming in its depths. I paused to admire the perfect blue skies and the sunshine attempting to raise the temperatures a few degrees. A flash of blue from the still snow-covered pine branches caught my eye along with the shrill call of a Blue Jay in the still air – begging for their peanut breakfast.

Halters removed, the horses slowly made their way to the open barn door – pausing to take in the cold air outside. They stepped out and drank deeply of the fresh cold water – goldfish nibbling at their lips for stray particles of feed. Raising their heads, they alerted me to a magnificent white-tailed buck making his way to the shelter of the pines.

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Harley was the first to run – his youthful exuberance for life showing in the leaps and bounds he took as he plunged through the belly deep snow. His mottled coat of black and white melded perfectly with the cloud of snow rising from his flying hooves. Soon, the older geldings were enticed into participating in the game of snow tag as they ran and sparred in the frigid air. Clouds of vapor emitted from their flared nostrils as they snorted their pleasure.
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Yes, it would be easier to not have animals to care for in these cold winter months as I rubbed my fingers aching from the cold. But then I observed the geldings showing their uninhibited joy at their freedom to enjoy a sunny day – and found my own pleasure in the frigid days of winter.

December 24, 2009

Merry Christmas – I wish you enough

In this time of shopping for the perfect present, giving and receiving, one sometimes forgets the true meaning of Christmas. My uncle Kermit is in the hospital recovering from open heart surgery right now – a surgery we did not think he would survive. But he is doing so good and already out of ICU – we are all celebrating his recovery and realizing that it is the simple little things and the large and small miracles that make Christmas so special. With this – I wish you all a Merry Christmas and want to share with you a writing by Bob Perks ( http://www.bobperks.com/wish.htm ) which has been making the rounds on email for a few years. I can’t improve on his words – he speaks what I am feeling right now. Too often – we don’t express our feelings until it is too late. To all my friends – I wish you enough! Merry Christmas and a Very Happiest of New Years!

I wish you enough!”©
By Bob Perks

I never really thought that I’d spend as much time in airports as I do. I don’t know why. I always wanted to be famous and that would mean lots of travel. But I’m not famous, yet I do see more than my share of airports.

I love them and I hate them. I love them because of the people I get to watch. But they are also the same reason why I hate airports. It all comes down to “hello” and “goodbye.”I must have mentioned this a few times while writing my stories for you.

I have great difficulties with saying goodbye. Even as I write this I am experiencing that pounding sensation in my heart. If I am watching such a scene in a movie I am affected so much that I need to sit up and take a few deep breaths. So when faced with a challenge in my life I have been known to go to our local airport and watch people say goodbye. I figure nothing that is happening to me at the time could be as bad as having to say goodbye.

Watching people cling to each other, crying, and holding each other in that last embrace makes me appreciate what I have even more. Seeing them finally pull apart, extending their arms until the tips of their fingers are the last to let go, is an image that stays forefront in my mind throughout the day.

On one of my recent business trips, when I arrived at the counter to check in, the woman said, “How are you today?” I replied, “I am missing my wife already and I haven’t even said goodbye.”

She then looked at my ticket and began to ask, “How long will you…Oh, my God. You will only be gone three days!” We all laughed. My problem was I still had to say goodbye.

But I learn from goodbye moments, too.

Recently I overheard a father and daughter in their last moments together. They had announced her departure and standing near the security gate, they hugged and he said, “I love you. I wish you enough.” She in turn said, “Daddy, our life together has been more than enough. Your love is all I ever needed. I wish you enough, too, Daddy.”

They kissed and she left. He walked over toward the window where I was seated. Standing there I could see he wanted and needed to cry. I tried not to intrude on his privacy, but he welcomed me in by asking, “Did you ever say goodbye to someone knowing it would be forever?”

“Yes, I have,” I replied. Saying that brought back memories I had of expressing my love and appreciation for all my Dad had done for me. Recognizing that his days were limited, I took the time to tell him face to face how much he meant to me.

So I knew what this man experiencing.

“Forgive me for asking, but why is this a forever goodbye?” I asked.

“I am old and she lives much too far away. I have challenges ahead and the reality is, the next trip back would be for my funeral,” he said.

“When you were saying goodbye I heard you say, “I wish you enough.” May I ask what that means?”

He began to smile. “That’s a wish that has been handed down from other generations. My parents used to say it to everyone.” He paused for a moment and looking up as if trying to remember it in detail, he smiled even more.”When we said ‘I wish you enough,’ we were wanting the other person to have a life filled with just enough good things to sustain them,” he continued and then turning toward me he shared the following as if he
were reciting it from memory.

“I wish you enough sun to keep your attitude bright.
I wish you enough rain to appreciate the sun more.
I wish you enough happiness to keep your spirit alive.
I wish you enough pain so that the smallest joys in life appear much
bigger.
I wish you enough gain to satisfy your wanting.
I wish you enough loss to appreciate all that you possess.
I wish enough “Hello’s” to get you through the final “Goodbye.”

He then began to sob and walked away.

My friends, I wish you enough!

A Little Thing

A Little Thing


A milk weed pod – yes, its just a weed. But within its hands it cups a special and fragile gift, meant to last just a short time….Just as God gave the gift of his son to us on this special Christmas Eve so many years ago.

December 1, 2009

Weathering the Storms

Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year to you all! It’s amazing how fast the past year has gone. It was a year filled with many ups and downs for family and friends, but crisis and hardships were offset by extremely spectacular moments meant to be remembered and cherished for years to come.

I’ve made many good friends this year through the “new fangled” way of meeting and greeting people – Facebook and Twitter. One such friend met through Facebook but never in person is Mark Madsen, who just posted a very reflective statement, “Did you ever watch horses in a bad snow storm?? They turn their butt to the wind and snow and let it blow. When the storm is over they just shake off the snow and go back to eating grass. Hmm, sometimes you need to just shake it off and go on with living.” This is excellent advice for all of us from someone who has been through his share of storms. Mark has worked hard at shaking off that snow through the one avenue which works so well – by using the healing power of horses.

Storms can come in so many varieties – from a gentle cleansing rainstorm to an all-out raging blizzard, tornado or hurricane – but they never last forever. Farmers and ranchers have to deal daily with weather delays and worries – especially this past year with record cold, wet and now a delayed harvest. As of Dec. 1 as I’m writing this column, our corn is still standing in the field while we wait for the moisture levels to lower. This in itself creates a storm of itself of worry and stress – unharvested crop does not pay the bills. Do we let the storm creep under our hides or do we just turn our backs to it and wait for it to pass so we can shake off the worry and prepare for a new year?

Harley and I had a storm the other day…which sure surprised the heck out of me! But his training has been hit and miss between the weather and farm work so I probably had it coming. We quickly went from an eager walk to an “oh crap – what’s this all about” as we bounced our way towards my new rail fence. Not liking the thought of a fence post landing, I opted for the “Let Go and Let God” strategy and met with Mother Earth. This was followed with a Come to Jesus Meeting as we settled our differences first from the ground and once again upon his back. The day ended on a better note although we both were still a little hot under the collar. Time management issues with Thanksgiving and work once again prevailed to the point of Harley being ignored basically for a week until yesterday when I once again spent some time with my little gelding. By then, the storm had passed and we both shook the snow off of our backs as we enjoyed each other’s company.

Life throws a snowball at you on occasion – do you throw it back with a vengeance or do you turn tail to the wind and wait until the storm passes so you can shake that snow off your back and go on living? Fighting the storms normally makes matters worse but sometimes waiting the storm out can be hard for those of us lacking patience. One of my favorite quotes by an unknown author gives you another option, “Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass – It’s about learning to dance in the rain.” Find the Joy, Live the Joy, Be the Joy! And as always, look Into the Sunset for a brand new day.

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October 13, 2009

Living in the Moment

Living in the moment. Within the coolness of the fall day, the silence broken by the whisper of the wind in the pines high above and a warning cry of the blue jay from its evergreen branches. I walked on, closely followed by the blue roan – his nose lightly touching my shoulder. Warm breath and whiskers tickling my cheek halts my wanderings as I stop to scratch the friendly colt. White hairs sift down to the ground, much like the approaching snowflakes of winter.

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It was the robustly colored pheasants that drew me from the warmth of the house – two roosters squabbling over the territorial rights of my back yard. The shy creatures fled at my approach, resounding squawks protesting my intrusion. I was drawn to the hills of the pasture and the horses within. The chestnut’s legs reached for the sky as he rolled in an effort to dry the rain from his hide – his shaggy and now muddy coat betraying the sleek summer sheen of days past.

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The blue roan, started by the commotion, left my side to the hill above, highlighted by a brief ray of sunshine against the deep green of the pines. The clicks of my camera shutter the only unnatural sound amidst the drone of the crickets in the grass.

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It became a game between the blue roan and I, as he ran from hillside to corral and then back to me. My camera captured the moments of his romp – his glee refusing to be dampened by the cloudy day. His mottled coat a blur of motion as he bucked and kicked with the enthusiasm of the young; settling to a walk as he respectfully approached me for another scratch. At my urging, he exits for another run, up hill and down – mud, mane and tail flying in the breeze generated by his thundering hooves, echoing in the quiet of the approaching shower.

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The older geldings waited patiently in the muddy corral, unaffected by the zeal of the blue roan colt named Harley until he too, waited patiently by the fence for his snack of crab apples. Hastened by another approaching rain shower, I gathered the crisp red windfalls and fed the boys their treats. Soon smacking lips and the fresh scent of apple mingled with the gentle cleansing drops falling from the sky. The drops became larger – silencing the crickets with their damp. Wanting to linger with warm horse breath upon my fingers and rain damp upon my hair, the earthy scent of smoke emitting from the chimney reluctantly drew me back to the warmth and crackle of the wood fire within. Living in the moment – treasured for years to come.
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May 23, 2009

Giving Thanks

A double rainbow exploded with vibrant prismatic colors upon dark indigo rain clouds. In the glow of the setting sun, trees and grass lush with spring growth enhanced the pallet of colors with their soft pale and deepening greens. A crab apple tree’s pure white blossoms with its sweet spicy scent mingled with the aroma of fresh rainfall enriching my senses so long deprived by a cold winter.

It seems I have never seen such a splendid springtime in my life. Is it so beautiful and lush because of the excessive moisture of the previous fall and spring? Or is this spring so much more precious because of the harsh weather conditions and the turmoil faced in the past 9 months? One thing I do know for certain, this spring I have thanked God for each and every sunny day and every gale force wind that helped dry the soil. Thanks are given for the freshly planted fields of corn soon to sprout in the fertile earth, dark with recent tillage and smelling of rich intoxicating earth scent.

I also thank God daily for my family and friends – near and far, you are all angels bearing faith, healing, hope and laughter. I am eternally grateful to all of you and want to thank you for bearing with me during my time of loss. Your words of sympathy from so many corners of the world strengthened me and helped ease my troubled soul.

After the loss of Al, I mourned deeply…so deep I was not sure if it would end. I let my tears flow freely but I also pushed myself to ride and work with my other horses, knowing full well their strength would help me heal. Now I find myself feeling hopeful anticipation, excitement and a profound thankfulness for all that is about me. Al is still performing his miracles from above.

I feel a deeper sense of appreciation for each day, each flower, and each blade of grass that turns green with the warming sun. The noisy chatter of the birds and contrasting silence of the horses as I stand with them scratching their itches fills my ears. Horses have a silent language which speaks loudly of their desires and feelings. The pleasure of just the right spot being scratched shown by an outstretched head and quivering lip to the evil eye of Harley as he begrudgingly lets me rub suntan lotion onto his pink sunburned nose. I laugh at his glare and he forgives me when I apologize with a hug and a scratch.

Today, I found the strength to read my words written shortly after Al’s death and once again the tears flowed freely. Words my son said a few years ago came to mind. We had just had to put JD down, out first horse we had owned for 23 years. That day, I questioned why I have animals as I become so attached and the loss is so hard on me. Kyle remarked kindly, “Mom, that is what makes you the person you are.” Yes the loss is hard, but all the years of love, care and kindness makes me whole…it makes me ME.

I am a firm believer that people such as all of you (and my animals) enter your life for a reason…. you are God-sent angels who supported me and carried me during my time of need. I am back on the right path and being guided by the hand of God towards an unknown destination – one which I go to freely and eagerly. So many wonderful things await me and time is precious. There is much to do.
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May 2, 2009

A Biker’s View

Today was a day of many firsts. I took my first ride without Al, a hard step to take but I knew I needed to carry on in order to begin the healing process. Without Al to ride, I have moved Eddie up into the role of senior horse so for the first time, Eddie was asked to pony a young colt. Harley was that colt and he took this first step towards maturity like he has taken all of his steps, in stride and in a manner befitting a prince about to take over Al’s throne. ESP must have been working as just before I and my husband left to ride, my brother called to see how I was doing. He also mentioned he had emailed me something that I should read. The below paragraph, an adaptation of Footprints in the Sand is written by my brother Doug, a true gruff teddy bear biker type with a heart and soul as pure and beautiful as a rainbow. This was simply too excellent and precious not to share. Love you forever Doug, you are a true God-sent Angel on Earth.

When Dawn arrived at the gates of heaven, God was discussing her life with her and all the good she had done. They started following the tracks of her life and she occasionally noticed only one set of tracks. She said to God why in the darkest times of my life as when I had cancer, my Dad had cancer, and other troublesome times there are only one set of tracks, did you abandon me? “No my child I did not abandon you” God said, “during those most difficult times in your early to midlife I sent an angel by the name of Al to carry you through your darkest moments. But much like your faithful companions Megan and Jack, dogs and horses don’t need to live as long because they already love everyone on earth. It takes mankind longer to get to the same point in their lives before their work on earth is done. I have now sent you a new angel named Harley to carry on where Al left off. In a short time Al taught him all that he would need to know to carry you in your dark times. Angels among us come in all shapes and sizes but too many people just don’t take the time to recognize them. You are never alone. Some days you may think you are but be not afraid when a tough gruff biker pulls up on a Harley Davidson as he just may be the next angel I sent down the road to help you.”

May 1, 2009

My Soulmate – Al

My brother, Doug, bless his heart, reminded me this morning of a column I wrote the past winter about choices. I had stated ‘no matter where you are at in your life, there are always choices to be made.’ At that time, one of the choices I had to make was finding a replacement for my soulmate Al, as he would be turning 21 and I knew unless I found that fountain of youth, I would need a special horse to take his place.

Joy followed with the choice of Harley, my biker dude horse, named for Doug who thought I should get a motorcycle instead of ‘those smelly horses.’ The herd was made whole with the introduction of Harley and he along with Al and my other horses, brightened my days during a harsh winter and stress of a sick father. Harley and Al became close friends and it was soon rare that you would see the two separated. Al worked hard at teaching “that young whippersnapper” the ropes which included jail breaking and playing the various games Al taught all newcomers.

Al was a teacher. He loved children and taught them how to ride. He taught them and me how to trust and believe in yourself. He taught me to sit back and enjoy the ride. On so many occasions, he was my healer as he carried me through tough situations such as my battle with cancer. Purchased as a two-year old just before I was diagnosed with Stage IV Hodgkin’s Lymphoma, I took respite and solace in Al and my other horses those days. Riding and training when I was able gave me a purpose in life and something to think about other than doctor visits, chemotherapy and radiation. That fall, I postponed my final chemotherapy treatment so Al and I could ride in the badlands of North Dakota. The ruggedly beautiful landscape and the young horse that gently carried my frail body helped heal my soul and gave me strength to continue on. Each year since, Al and I made our pilgrimage back to the badlands, thankful for our health and secure with the bond between two friends at heart, equine and human. Al has carried me through many good days and bad.

Al knew when I needed a hug and also sensed when I needed the release of a good hard ride. I often took Al out for “therapy” rides. Just this past fall when my father was undergoing his own battle with cancer, my dear friend Kerry reminded me that I needed Al. She said, “It is God putting His hand to our shoulder and saying, “Easy, Easy, Easy….” Heeding her advice I took Al out for a long ride that day and through the Power of God and the healing power of the horse I so dearly loved, I found the strength to carry on.

A week ago on the first hot spring day, my buddy Al looked at me from over the gate, his eyes saying ‘Lets go for a ride.’ As we rode along, I thought, ‘this just feels so right. We fit each other like a glove, Al and I,’ little did I know that this would be our last ride. A week later, the morning sun shined gloriously on the horses in the pasture, so welcome after the previous day’s rain. It was Harley that alerted us to Al’s plight, laying on the ground. Colic is a horrible thing, something Al had never known. We spent the day at the clinic doing what we could in hopes Al would pull through but all too soon I would have to make the choice to end my soulmate’s life. Choices are not easy but even the hard choices must be made to help ease the pain of those you love.

It will take time to ease my pain but I know Al approved of who would be taking his place. Harley will have some mighty big shoes to fill but with time, I know that he will do it well, guided by his mentor from above. I will use the healing power of my horses to find strength and heal my soul, a piece of me gone forever, the remaining enriched by memories of the love he shared. I will find joy

Al is now running with the angels in the badlands we both loved so dearly, tracking the deer and elk and finding the perfect way home. In time, I will place a wreath of his hair in our sacred place and say a prayer of Thanksgiving for the wonderful times we shared together. Not lost, never forgotten – and when my time comes, Al will be waiting at Heaven’s Gate for endless rides Into the Sunset.

Buffalo Al – May 19, 1988 – April 30, 2009
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March 10, 2009

Lean On Me

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“Sometimes in our lives we all have pain
We all have sorrow
But if we are wise
We know that there’s always tomorrow”

There are few people that don’t recognize the lyrics to Lean on Me, a hit song written and performed by Bill Withers in his 1972 album Still Bill. In fact, I’m sure the majority of you are humming it already and will soon be swearing at me for not being able to get it out of your heads. This song came to my mind the other day while downloading a few photos taken of my old man Al and his best bud Zip standing out in the pasture and its been stuck in my head ever since.

“Lean on me, when you’re not strong
And I’ll be your friend,
I’ll help you carry on
For it won’t be long
Til I’m gonna need somebody to lean on”

I was unaware at the time I took the photo of how closely the two were standing, being just as focused on what they were watching as they were. By chance, I caught a tender moment between two horses. Like two friends that stop to enjoy a scenic view, their guard let down and in their horse style, Al placed an arm around the shoulder of the youngster (leaned a hip against Zippy) as if to say, “look there, this moment is truly special.”

Please swallow your pride
If I have things you need to borrow
For no one can fill
Those of your needs
that you won’t let show

We all need to lean on our friends on occasion, whether it is for moral support, companionship, sharing the good times and the bad, and sharing the laughter and tears that only friends can understand. Admitting we need help is not always easy; admitting we enjoy each other’s presence can even sometimes come begrudgingly – a sign of weakness some claim. But when your guard is let down, even for just an instant, the pleasure of the moment shared can last a lifetime.

So just call on me brother when you need a hand
We all need somebody to lean on
I just might have a problem that you’ll understand
We all need somebody to lean on

I have watched throughout the winter as Al has stepped deeper into the Grandfather role in his life, patiently teaching Harley the ropes on the Faught farm. He seems to enjoy this phase of his life and as boss of the herd treats the other horses with respect while still keeping them in line. I look at the times I have shared with my horses, all so giving in love and trust – the special close moments and laughter that even though in different languages, understood well and fully. We all could learn from watching our animals.

Lean on me, when you’re not strong
And I’ll be your friend,
I’ll help you carry on
For, it won’t be long
Til I’m gonna need somebody to lean on

Asking for help is a sign of strength. Giving help is an even greater power. Sharing the burden and sharing the joy go hand in hand – family and friends and even strangers. My father shamelessly reached out and just as we strengthened the bond of father and daughter, we are now rejoicing in his remission. Thanks to the wonders of modern technology and my Twitter account, a man from Hungary, basically the other side of the world, saw my posts on my past cancer experience and then reached out for support on how to survive his battle with Stage IV Hodgkins Lymphoma. And through helping him, he in turn helps me to fulfill my dream of helping others undergoing chemotherapy and realize just how lucky I am to still be here today.

Lean on me. Spread the joy and wealth of happiness and the never ending circle of giving.

If there is a load you have to bear
That you can’t carry
I’m right up the road
I’ll share your load
If you just call me

So just call on me brother, when you need a hand
We all need somebody to lean on
I just might have a problem that you’d understand
We all need somebody to lean on

Lean on me when you’re not strong
And I’ll be your friend
I’ll help you carry on
For it won’t be long
Till I’m gonna need
Somebody to lean on

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